Many men talk like Donald Trump in private. And only other men can stop them….it takes men like me to hold our friends accountable for things they say and do to objectify women. We must challenge their values, language and actions.
– Shaun Harper, The Washington Post
I am going to be succinct so that my message doesn’t get lost in the shuffle.
Obviously, locker room culture is and has been a huge part of my life. And yes, on rare occasions, I have overheard inappropriate and crass statements in locker rooms. These absolutely have to be teachable moments. Admittedly, I didn’t always have the courage to speak my mind. But with practice you find your voice.
“Not here. That’s not us. We don’t think like that. We don’t talk like that. And we don’t act like that.”
End of teachable moment.
In my locker room, this isn’t a discussion. And this isn’t open for debate.
Like many other situations, there is no such thing as tacit disapproval. There is no abstaining here. You always make a choice. You either silently or vocally support it, or you vocally reject it. The cost of silence always outweighs the cost of speaking up.
And it shouldn’t matter if you’re talking to a sophomoric senior in high school or a potential leader of the free world, “Not here. That’s not us. We don’t think like that. We don’t talk like that. And we don’t act like that.”